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I Had an Abortion and Now I'm Not Ashamed

Originally published at http://www.commondreams.org/views/2019/07/15/i-had-abortion-and-now-im-not-ashamed

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“Now, though, as the horrors of climate change reveal themselves daily, I sometimes think that choosing not to bring another resource-devouring, fossil-fuel-burning, carbon-dioxide-emitting American into the world might actually have been the most unselfish thing I’ve ever done.”

To this reason I added the purposeful dumbing down of society, particularly through the “education” system (please research Frederick T. Gates, advisor to John D. Rockefeller–hint search for quotes on education). My mind is my muse. I was lucky enough to grow up in a house with books (by Dog!) and that set me up to suffer curiosity metastasis. At around the age of 44 I deduced that the only way I could honestly raise a child would be to “no school” her/him. I would have bought the appropriate educational materials, waited for the child to express curiosity, and then pounced with age appropriate information. While I am in favor of public education, I am also in favor of exposing its tremendous flaws and getting to the serious business of fixing it. At my core I truly believe that educated people treat one another with more respect and produce the maximum harmony possible. Education is a human right. Training (subservience to corporations) is an abomination.

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From the article:

“Efforts to deny women abortion access (not to mention contraception) have only accelerated…”

As should be painfully obvious to all by now, a moral or religious objection to abortion has far less to do with reducing the number of abortions than does a patriarchal fixation on reducing the freedoms available to women.

Contraceptives reduce the number of abortions far more effectively than any number of bloody-fetus-porn posters and spittle-flecked “sidewalk counselling” sessions will ever do.

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Thank you Ms. Gordon for a thoughtful article. Being a male that fully supports a woman’s right to decide what is right for her own body as well as seeing woman as capable of doing anything that men can do, it never entered my consciousness that a woman’s only purpose in life is child bearing. I suppose I had some concept that society places this expectation on women but I was not cognizant of the extent of the pressure that is placed on even well educated women. Certainly, I see that pressure placed on women in communities that are less than progressive but the universality of that expectation had escaped me.

The sharing of your experiences helps my understanding of the stigmatization of not only women who opt for an abortion but for all women who elect to not to have children. Your article presents a broadened and more inclusive ethical perspective of not just a woman’s right to choose to abort or not to abort but a woman’s right to choose her own life’s path.

Your future students will greatly benefit from your experience with abortion and your insights pertaining to the bigger and broader ethical questions of choices in general.

News flash. It’s not your body, it’s another living body./ And nobody gets to choose playing God.

Is that selfish? Could it not be self-serving, or self-centric, or self-interested, or self-determining, or self-affirming?

“Now, though, as the horrors of climate change reveal themselves daily, I sometimes think that choosing not to bring another resource-devouring, fossil-fuel-burning, carbon-dioxide-emitting American into the world might actually have been the most unselfish thing I’ve ever done.”

I’m worried for her ethics students. We do not make such ethical evaluations on the basis of results and outcomes but on the basis of motive and intents at the time the decision was made. If her motives for getting an abortion back then were truly selfish (and I’m suspecting she only thought they were because she failed to appreciate the breadth of the spectrum for considerations that include the self), then no development or outcome after the fact will change that.

It’s pretty definite her body was involved.

“it’s another living body”

Says you. I say it hadn’t gotten that far. What we have here is called a difference of opinion.

“And nobody gets to choose playing God.”

But it appears anybody gets to pretend to speak for God.

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