many native american tribes and nations, such as the cherokee lived in a matriarchal society. difficult it is to understand for those of us in a patriarchal paradigm. it’s not actually a case of “who’s the boss?” because both men a women chose their path. the cherokee women were in charge of the children, the home, the gardening while the men hunted, fished, drummed and danced. well, that pretty simplistic.
we oh so civilized ones call these societies primitive as if they had no cultural development. however, men made tools, canoes, musical instruments, jewelry as well as other creations and, yes, weapons should war become necessary. of course the women developed culinary arts, designed cooking utensils, jewelry and more. women did make all decisions in home management and in early child rearing. her brother or closed male relative guided the young boys into manhood.
should war seem the only option the war chief formed a council of elders men and women to discuss the details and hopefully find better options. all soldiers were male. yes, i’ve heard barbra bush called the matriarch of her family, but that’s not what i mean by matriarchy which in reality is a system of mutual respect AND respect for Nature!
imagine you work at your craft all day or hunt or fish to bring home food. the women take care of the home front, work on their crafts, etc and prepare the evening meal. we all dine together around the campfire–the men fill their plates first 'cause they need a lot of food. then the men play music, sing and dance while the women enjoy the religious entertainment. the best part is they see earth as a living Mother to resppect and never exploit.