We can't stop sexual violence until we understand how very mundane it is.
I have known several women in my life that have been the victims of sexual assault and rape, and some were children when it happened.
I have seen what it has done to them in their lives, to their self-esteem, to their interpersonal relationships, to their emotional stability. I have made myself available to listen and support them any way that they would allow me to.
I too, was approached by a man one day in the early 60’s as I was riding my bicycle about a mile from my home which was out in the country, all alone. I was maybe 9 or 10.
He pulled his car up and slowed down so he could look at me out his driver’s window. Since this was a country road, there were no other cars in sight. He smiled at me and exposed himself. I knew I only had a couple seconds to turn my bike around and head for home as fast as I could go.
I was scared to death but I knew that I could leave the paved road and ride towards the woods if need be. My Great Uncle’s farm was about a half to 3/4 a mile away.
I made it there.
Yes, Me Too.
Me too. Children both boys and girls are vulnerable.
I must have been the subject of some what-about-the-boy discussions between my public school teachers and my parents, as I was packed off to a boarding school in the middle of second grade. It was there that I was raped by an older student, who secured my immediate silence with the threat of death. Not until well into my second marriage was I able to tell even one other person, due to my own shame and revulsion. My parents died before I could find a way to tell them that wouldn’t sound accusatory—and that was many years after.
So-called “sex” crimes are only incidentally about sex. Rather, they’re demonstrations of power by people who go through life feeling otherwise powerless—and yes, this applies even to apparently-powerful figures such as Harvey Weinstein and Donald Trump, whose pathologies can be found anywhere between the front and back covers of the DSM. #MeToo is a powerful tool for healing.