Thanks for this. I talk to and am friends with a lot of my neighbors all the time who are right wing Trump supporters. They are good, caring people. I never talk politics with anyone - left or right. During the lead up to the election, a neighbor that I have had wonderful relations with for years told me that I HAD to vote Biden because…Trump. I didn’t respond and changed the subject because in good conscience I couldn’t vote for Biden or Trump, but I always vote. It wasn’t up for debate for me. Had the same problem with Obama and HRC. Couldn’t in good conscience vote for either EVER.
Not sure how a Truth and Reconciliation project would work, but is definitely worth a try at some point. I live in Oregon (a rascist state to the bone) where the Proud Boys and 3pers (and the Sheriffs!) are extremely active. And they have no place in any attempts at reconciliation. Neither do any violent extremists on the “left” (I put that in quotes because there is no Left of significance left in the US).
Best of luck to you. Hopefully at some point whites will have your back.