This is very, very difficult for me.
I am the oldest brother of five siblings, the three younger than me are my sisters who I love dearly. We were the only working family living in a street of ultra wealthy families full of young men.
I am the son of deeply educated woman who managed these five children while teaching full time.
She also managed being abused by my father on a regular basis, mostly verbally, but on more than one occasion violently. With two kids already in the world, she tried suicide. With four she left home once. When I was seventeen and just had surgery we moved to a women’s shelter. My father’s violence was also the reason that the men in our neighborhood who imported women for their pleasure, did not dare look at my sisters twice. He sent at least one man to the hospital.
I can write a book about this, but I have divorce court paperwork due to the judge on Wednesday.
My daughter’s mother has abused her since the day she was born, and keeps her from me.
Doing great art consistently is an exceedingly tough calling and there is some of Lady gaga’s work I do admire. But I much prefer Tori Amos’ “Me and a gun” about the subject of rape. Eileen, as she was christened, is our greatest living song writer today.
I am very very sorry about Gina Benevento’s experience. I have said this here before. Gender Tribalism is not the answer. There are monsters on both sides. No amount of justice will give rape victims some part or all of their life back. There should be no sympathy for the perpetrator who has raped. I will do everything in my power to help the ones closest to me heal.
Federal grant programs are used by divorce attorneys and judges to keep divorce law suits going to enrich themselves till both parties are destitute. The Voice for men is not a hate site. I depend on Paul Elam for occasional wisdom.
Polarisation is an answer for the antagonistic. This is where I disagree with Paul’s approach. He is no stranger to this disagreement. The red pill movie was created by a feminist.
There are those of us who denounce any violence. And some us have been accused of crimes we have never committed. The point is to foster transparency, not hate and loathing.
I am sure I will not be seen as the same again here, and I anticipate the tone of the conversation.
But I have to get back to court paperwork.