I am sorry you had to face such unfairness with the criminal "justice" system.
I spent Christmas with a savvy friend who knew that I'd had some challenges with the local justice system lately. He put it very succinctly: everyone else wins, BUT the plaintiff pays.
The person being sued has done the damage and largely gets away with it. The court makes money FROM the suit being filed. Try collecting.
Many judges are notoriously sexist.
The rules used in homicide cases are provably harder on women. Typically, a female who kills a male serves more time than a male who kills a female. Furthermore, the court system pretends that there's an equivalence between men and women when it comes to self-defense.
In other words, the female who's been battered and finally decides one day--with police doing nothing, and the criminal justice system doing nothing to protect her--that SHE will get rid of the maniac. Typically, to pull this (granted, violent and extreme, but also desperate) act off, she must PLAN.
After all, if a woman raises the knife, the guy usually is strong enough to overwhelm her. A gun might be harder...
So women who murder their abusers tend to get longer sentences under the stance that their crimes were more heinous and "cold blooded premeditated murder."
I recently did a study (astrological) on serial killers. What amazed me most was how often it was that some of the most vile and violent offenders were let out with relative hand-slaps for rape and violent assault. Many of these jackasses served less than 5 years. Often the sentences were 1-3 years (showing the misogynistic disdain a great many judges show for women and basic women's rights), and the guys got out early.
How many rape kits sit untested? How many guys assault females who "serve" with them inside the military and when these crimes are reported, their superiors do nothing? How many colleges pretend that no rapes go on and try to get the females to just look the other way.
Someone I once respected (who posted in these threads) tried to say that MOST men are not violent. His dearth of sensitivity really hit me. He was clueless to the fact that MOST men stand idly by while a great deal of violence happens TO women. Men do little to dismantle the SYSTEM (of privileges and hierarchy) that patriarchy not only built, but viciously keeps in place.
Patriarchy, the exaltation of the mighty muscle, greed, and religions that teach gospels of hate and exclusivity are LETHAL combinations. Our world reverberates.... and bleeds accordingly.