To be very blunt, our better-off have been oblivious to much that has been happening. To try to put it all into a nutshell:
The Reagan Democrats of the 1980s moved to the right to merge with the Clinton wing in the 1990s. The Clinton wing sold the neoliberal agenda to the beat of a rock and roll song. This has enabled them to reverse much of a century of socioeconomic progress. Bill Clinton ended actual welfare aid, and had enough time to take the first steps to similarly "reform" Social Security (targeting the disabled). Our liberal media responded by launching a boisterous pep rally for the middle class, ignoring the consequences of the Clinton agenda. We have a poverty crisis, and there is no public will to legitimately address it. (For the record, President Obama was able to get Congress to restore disability benefits. Congress, however, Dems included, soon enough resumed targeting them again.)
The middle class is now feeling the anxiety that the poor began experiencing in the 1980s. It's a legitimate reaction. You'll adjust, because one really doesn't have a choice. What can we do? What are we willing to do? Before you begin contemplating those questions, come to terms with the fact that we're only more deeply divided by class and race than we were a decade ago.