What I’m resisting here, is a bizarre notion that no men are marginalized by societal standards held by both men and women, as to the worth of being “a real man”, and the rest.
I don’t think the article is saying that.
But – let’s reverse this thinking – do you really think that no women are marginalized by societal standards held by both men and women?
Would anyone deny the “Barbie Doll” image which has been imposed on the minds of young girls?
You have only to look at the female side of the “First Family” to see this.
That young girls in America are pushed to anorexia and bulimia by the values taught them by our media.
How often have you seen a male on TV cleaning a toilet bowl in a commercial?
And how about the media articles which for so long have taught young women “How to please a man.”
And there are many more ways that females have been “stereotyped” which could still be discussed.
And it’s a very appropriate moment to also acknowledge the actual and real violence done to females in our societies by males – often now with a gun – but in cases of domestic violence by husbands, by ex-boyfriends and ex-husbands and other males.
Too many males in our societies still hold conscious and unconscious fear of women which is reflected often in relationship problems. Too many males still hold the view that they must be the dominant partner in the relationship. That they must be the bread-winner and protector of the family.
Many women have had experiences where men aren’t honest with themselves about these feelings and women don’t recognize them until they find themselves undermined by them – sometimes by domestic violence – sometimes by the male partner causing problems with the female’s employment or friends – and in other ways until either the woman surrenders to the way he needs things to be – or she leaves.