You know, as I was writing that I thought it might push your anti-"we meme" button. Sometimes it's just easier to express things using the collective responsibility frame.
I don't think the question of collective responsibility is as simple as you make it. To you there isn't any because we aren't in charge. You absolve those who voted for Bush twice of responsibility because they were lied to and misled.
Yet the fact of the matter is we far outnumber those who are running things. Were we to collectively rise up we could take the reins. But we don't.
So you, by giving everyone a pass, are actually contributing to the problem.
We may not bear all the responsibility but we certainly bear some of it.