You are wrong that women can just say no, and everything will be alright and they won’t have any need for abortion or unwanted pregnancy because as you state later in your writing there is too much rape and incest and such, so how can women protect themselves without birth control? Do you really think that most husbands are going to allow their wives to just refuse sex if they don’t want a child? Of course not! Birth control is one of the only ways that women have to protect ourselves from exploitation by men.
There is a Mexican women who was forced by her husband to have 21 children, one pregnancy every year for 21 years! This is what will happen without access to Planned Parenthood which uses 97 percent of its funding for woman’s health, cancer screenings, STD and HIV testing, birth control and sex education, not to encourage sex as you say but so that women and men know what causes pregnancy and how to prevent it as many young girls reach puberty too early in the modern world, at age ten or eleven and can get pregnant without even knowing how pregnancy occurrs.
Furthermore, sex education in public schools does not encourage sex or teach young people how to do it. Sex occurs naturally because all human beings after puberty have massive sex hormones that push them to want to have sex. We were designed that way to propagate the species. Ancient cultures got young people married as soon as possible after puberty, but in this culture one reaches puberty at ten and doesn’t get married until age thirty or so. What are people going to do then? I suggest we get young people married sooner and put the girls on birth control until the couple is financially able to support themselves and have children. This way no one will have to be promiscuous out of sexual need, as sex and affection is a human need, believe it or not. The Amish do this by only requiring or allowing no more than an eighth grade education after which the young person dates, marries and joins their church. They marry before age 20, like we used to 100 years ago and work on their organic farms like we used to 100 years ago. It was modern industrialism and the massive social changes that have occurred because of this that has caused this problem along with Hugh Hefner and the sexual revolution.
However, even in those perhaps more idyllic days 100 years ago there were still problems. People are just naturally promiscuous, so it takes a real commitment not to do so. People have been promiscuous for our entire human history, even in Bible days. We must not kid ourselves that people might have been better in the olden days. I think not. It’s just that today it is so openly done that it seems that way. No one sees people like me who are chaste, even fewer would even believe me. I have been intentionally celibate for 26 years since my divorce for domestic violence perpetrated on me by my mentally and emotionally disturbed ex husband who refused to go to therapy for his trauma over severe child abuse he suffered as a child and still suffers from as an adult, and who was unable to stop violently abusing me and his infant son, out of massive insecurity and jealousy, among other things. I am celebrate in respect for the words of Jesus Christ who said that anyone who got divorced and remarried would be committing adultery. I realize that many other people don’t see getting divorced and remarried as a problem, but I have decided to follow Jesus’s words in the Gospel as well as I can and to follow no one else.
I have learned that neither birth control or abortion were ever prohibited during Bible times, and abortion was sanctioned in the laws of Moses where any husband who suspected his wife of infidelity could force her to drink a drink that would cause abortion. Women had total control over pregnancy and birth and such in those days when there were only female midwives and no male doctors. Women could prevent and end pregnancy, by primitive means that were not always successful, but they never told men about it and men never asked. Even if someone harmed a pregnant woman and caused her to lose a wanted pregnancy, it was not murder, it was a property loss. The unborn had no rights during Bible times. No one could ever be murdered until after birth. I don’t think it will be helpful to our society to change this and start seeing fertilized eggs as full human beings, especially when we seem to care so little for human life after birth. I am not saying that we should not care about the unborn at all but we must be reasonable about it. Our abortion and birth control laws are fine as they are, they are not the problem.
It is bad human behavior that is the problem. Those in our churches are not teaching proper sexual morality and respect for members of both sexes, and church leaders to not demonstrate proper morality themselves. Planned Parenthood has prevented more unnecessary abortions in one month than the right to life movement ever did, by preventing unwanted pregnancy in the first place. In addition, our human population is grossly overpopulated, we desperately need Planned Parenthood because it is the poorest women and families who need birth control the most as they cannot afford to support children if they cannot support themselves.
The only answer is a program of responsible sexuality, to encourage marriage before sex when possible, but make sure that young people are prepared to take precautions in case they end up having sex anyway or give in to sexual temptation, lest they bring an unwanted other living being into their inappropriate sexual behavior when this at least can be prevented. Let us not have two or three sins to go along with the one. I see these overly moralistic prohibitions such as banning birth control, sex education, and abortion as actually helping the devil more than stoping him, because it will actually lead to more sin, and even more suffering if we ban sex education and birth control. These things don’t cause sexual immorality, they are needed partly because of sexual immorality, and because we are overpopulated and because it is not healthy for married women to have a child every year or to have too many children.
Furthermore, America is supposed to be a free country where people ought to be free from other people’s religious fanaticism. Everyone in America is not a Christian, or does not follow the same moral code, and we have no right to legislate our religious beliefs and then impose them onto others. I may choose to be celibate, but that is my choice. I refuse to condem others for their choice, it is up to God to judge, not me. I judge for myself, but I will condemn no one, as God wants to save everyone, and forgive everyone so we can all be saved. Since I am human and prone to sin, I want my sins to be forgiven, then Christ says that I must forgive other people their sins or else my sins will not be forgiven.
Furthermore, there are many medical reasons that the ignorant public has no knowledge of that cause a need to end a pregnancy due to severe fetal abnormalities, or the health of the mother, or pregnancies that cannot be saved anyway. I have seen these things as a labor nurse, and sometimes even wanted pregnancies must be terminated because for some reason God did not make it so that every pregnancy would survive or be a healthy one. Returning to a dark age where women must die to save the baby or both mother and baby must die because we cannot end a pregnancy to save either the mother or the child is barbaric and mysogynistic and unnecessary. Pence is opposed to any ending of pregnancy except at nine months gestation for any reason, and in total disregard to any medical advice. Pence is like that fanatic woman in one state that wanted to force all pregnant women with dead fetuses to have to wait nine months before the pregnancy could be ended, not realizing that a dead fetus decays inside the mother and creates a toxic infection that will kill her unless the pregnancy is ended as soon as possible.
These people are sick fanatics and their purpose is not to restore morality or better sexual behavior that many of them don’t or can’t follow themselves, but so that they can have absolute power and control over other people’s bodies because of an out of control allegiance to toxic patriarchy that must punish all women and make them suffer as much as possible for being born female, as Eve was blamed for bringing sin into the world. Next we will have witch burnings! God gives all of mankind free will to choose good or evil for themselves, but not the right to control other people’s choices, or to dictate what other people do with their own bodies. Banning abortion will not end abortion or save any of the unborn, it will just criminalize those who do end pregnancies and lock them up in for profit prisons at $60,000 per year per person at taxpayer expense. In addition, there are South American women right now locked up for life in prison due to these kinds of laws because they had natural spontaneous miscarriages that were falsely misinterpreted as them having done something wrong to have caused this loss of a pregnancy. These types of massively cruel injustices will be perpetrated upon all women if these fanatics get their way.
No anpmount of laws are going to stop people from having inappropriate sex. It also has been proven that in countries where both birth control and abortion are prohibited that the abortion rates skyrocket due to illegal abortions, and then more women will die also from bad abortions. Therefore, the only way to solve these problems is by a program of responsible sexuality and earlier marriage, rather than by banning birth control and medical abortion.